You do not catch a butterfly by chasing it: you sit still and it alights on your shoulder. Then it chooses you. That is true happiness.
— Richard Rohr Preparing for Christmas: Daily Meditations for Advent
Love means to see a person, a thing, a situation, as it really is and not as you imagine it to be, and to give it the response it deserves. You cannot love what you do not even see. … And what prevents you from seeing? Your concepts, your categories, your prejudices and projections, your needs and attachments, the labels you have drawn from your conditioning and from past experiences. Seeing is the most arduous thing that a human being can undertake. For it calls for a disciplined, alert mind, whereas most people would much rather lapse into mental laziness than take the trouble to see each person and thing anew in present-moment freshness.
— Anthony de Mello from The Way to Love: The Last Meditations of Anthony de Mello (Image Pocket Classics)